f you don't tell me to do it, then it is your fault that it didn't get done. If you tell me to do it, then it is your fault if it doesn't go right.
Have you ever heard these words or experienced these attitudes? Covert narcissists are SO good at dodging responsibility.
I used to wonder why he wouldn’t even choose the restaurant for our dinner. Many years later, I discovered that he wouldn’t choose so that nothing could ever be his fault. Why would he not make the plans for our vacation? But yet he would be so mad at me for the plans I made. He would not make the plans so that nothing would ever be his fault. And yet he would be mad at me because everything was my fault.
He didn’t help do the chores around the house because he didn’t want to do it wrong and make me mad. So he just did nothing! In his mind, then I could not be mad at him because he didn’t do anything wrong.
Blame shifting is a common weapon for a covert narcissist. If you are listening to this today - stop taking the blame for their faults. Stop taking responsibility for their stuff. You are not doing them or yourself any favors. They have their life to live. They have their own to answer for. Don’t let them lay this on your shoulders anymore!!
The Point of No Return
Episode 1 - Reactive Abuse: The Physical and Outward Reactions of Victims (Special Throwback Episode)
Narcissistic Relationships are Addictive Relationships
How to Save Our Kids During a Traumatic Divorce with a Narcissist
The Power of Perception and Gaslighting
Guest episode on Pathological Lying
Narcissistic Rage and Narcissistic Simmer
I Lost Myself to a Covert Narcissist (Special Throwback Episode)
The Religious Covert Narcissist
How Does This Get Better (Special Throwback Episode)
The Power of Destructive Messages
Covert Narcissists See Their World Through a Filter of Anger (Special Throwback Episode)
Why did I Put Up With This for So Long?
Two Things You Should Never Say to a Victim of Covert Narcissism (Special Throwback Episode)
Emotional Abuse is Physical
Interview by Ross Rosenberg, part two
Out of alignment: Time to reclaim your mental space
Interview by Ross Rosenberg, Part One
Gaslighting Our Kids is Damaging
Guilt Manipulation: How a Covert Narcissist Uses Your Own Guilt Against You (Special Throwback Episode)
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