In this powerfully vulnerable and honest episode with Mandy Lehto, we explore the ongoing journey of healing from overachieving and not feeling good enough. Mandy shared her own experience of this work in progress, of trying to no longer base her worth on achievements and praise, and instead on feeling worthy for being who she is, imperfections and all. We explore the signs that her body was saying no to more striving, as well as the wake up call she couldn’t ignore. We finish by thinking about how imperfect people are more likeable and get a deeper connection with others than seemingly perfectly put together people.
Dr. Mandy Lehto is a personal and executive coach and writer in London.
She has a doctorate from Cambridge University, and in her former career, was a Director at a global investment bank in the City.
She has written for, or featured in, Psychologies Magazine, The Sunday Times, Psychology Today, Top Sante, The Huffington Post, eFinancial Careers, and on CNBC.
She’s a recovering overachiever, who’s on a mission to help women to identify less with their doing, and more with their being.
5:15 How striving for worth didn’t serve Mandy
8:03 Over-achieving is the only addiction we get praised for
9:19 Mandy reaches breaking point
11:41 The trap of taking on healing with the same over-achieving attitude
14:41 How Mandy became more aware of her inner critic
15:31 Surrendering to feelings
21:51 Realising that perfection gets in the way of connection
27:01 What would Mandy tell her younger self?
34:53 Avoiding competitive self-care
37:41 How to soothe the inner critic rather than escape it
39:41 Exercise that does suit high achievers
41:46 The changes that middle age have brought about
43:49 Playing through writing
Instagram: @MandyLehto
Website: www.mandylehto.com
This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media
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