UNDERSTANDABLE

E330 - 10 Trauma Behaviors That Secretly Ruin Your Relationship

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠ (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ ⁠(Ad)Links & Resources: 10 Signs of Complex PTSD: https://youtu.be/rc4NqZQV5hA?si=wSuXmBqKgsOCukBi Reddit Stonewalling: https://www.reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1hw6a4a/a_cool_guide_on_stonewalling_and_how_to_deal_with/Dissociation: https://growththruchange.com/blog/why-dissociation-happens-and-steps-toward-healing/ ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ ⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ ⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ⁠► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:05 Weakness Zoom (Deactivating Strategies)06:18 Isolation/Avoidance11:22 People Pleasing15:40 Anger/Rage19:08 Stonewalling22:26 Emotional Numbing27:28 Withholding Affirmations29:30 Romanticizing The Past31:54 Hyper-Independence34:40 Privacy As A Shield► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

E329 - Commitment Fears or The Wrong Person: 5 Signs You're Just Afraid to Commit

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠ (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠ (Ad)Links & Resources: Why You’re So Sensitive To Criticism: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=FP2qWIwIUzUp79CQTrauma Bond: https://youtu.be/J70RwIER2BQ?si=5JMBZGVwgKUW1gY- ► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠ Amazon Music: ⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:11 What Is Fear of Commitment Again?04:24 Sign 1: You Have Unrealistic, Not High Just Standards08:31 Sign 2: You Focus On Their Flaws, Instead Of Their Good Sides12:01 Sign 3: Doubts And Insecurities Appear, When Everything Goes Well16:44 Sign 4: There Is Conflict, But Not “War”19:45 Sign 5: You Sabotage The Relationship, But Not Because Of Incompatibility► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

E328 - 5 Habits to Stop Letting Other People’s Mood Control You

► Free Relationship Masterclass: https://understandable.net/masterclass (Ad)► Access My Premium Course: https://understandable.net/course/ (Ad)Here are 5 Habits To Stop Letting Other People's Mood Control You. No Fluff, just practical habits that strengthen your boundaries.Why The Smallest Criticism Breaks You Episode: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=rLYl-PuiMEVV4K_u► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6 Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905 Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:56 Why Other People’s Mood Control You10:36 Habit 1: Pause Before You React13:50 Habit 2: Walk With a Better Posture17:07 Habit 3: Having a Routine20:16 Habit 4: Do More, of What You Need24:10 Habit 5: Reconnect With Your Own State► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

E327 - How to Stop Sabotaging Healthy Love

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E326 - Why We Sabotage Great Relationships

► Free Relationship Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠(Ad)► Access My Premium Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://understandable.net/course/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Ad)► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Links and Resources:Why You Don’t Feel Seen Video: https://youtu.be/6g6IiIwnPWA?si=BWVNopJCfPlRKFuIResolve Conflict With Compassion Video: https://youtu.be/xDgdKnCC1HM?si=-33iPJdOqOsvRgax ► Episode Timestamps:00:00 Why We Sabotage Great Relationships?02:56 What Is Triggering The Pattern?05:42 Why Relationships Feel Like a Loss of Control?11:58 Why Is It So Hard To Stop Sabotaging Love?15:49 Is There a Better Way Instead of Sabotaging Love?► Reach Out To Me :)E-Mail: info@understandable.net► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.