031 Self-Forgiveness

In this episode we get real and share our journey in self-forgiveness. Tiffany shares why this topic is near and dear to her heart. She actually cries on air (might be a first, folks!).

We discuss about what prompted us to be intentional in doing self-forgiveness work. You might be surprised!)

We discuss barriers and how we can go about healing as laid out in an article by Beverly Engel L.M.F.T.: “One of the barriers to self-forgiveness …You may view self-forgiveness as ‘letting yourself off the hook,’ as if self-judgment is the only way to improve. But negative self-judgment and self-blaming can actually act as an obstacle to self-improvement. The more shame you feel about your past actions and behaviors, the more your self-esteem is lowered and the less likely it is you will feel motivated to change.”

Beverly goes on to examine how we can go about self-forgiveness.

1. Self-understanding
   
2. Common humanity
   
3. Earning your forgiveness: taking responsibility, apologizing and making amends
   
4. Asking for forgiveness from your higher power
   

We talked about the 5 apology languages. It's so important to know what is meaningful for you!

Liv shares her approach to self-forgiveness through the lens of parenting a small child.

Tiffany shares her favorite affirmations:

Ho’oponopono prayer: “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”

And another that she adapted: “The person I was in that moment in time did the best that I could with the skills that I had. Forgiveness is a gift I give myself today.”

We rang a bell for:

• Sarah Blondin
  
• Dr. Brene Brown
  
• Tara Mohr
  
• Nadia Ghaffari, at Teenz Talk
  

We hope this episode has been encouraging and supports you in knowing that you are valuable and worthy of respect and you deserve forgiveness. If you are experiencing any barriers to self-forgiveness, we hope you will know you are not alone. Please, if you need it, get support!

Suicide is discussed in this episode. If you or someone you love is suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255.

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