f you don't tell me to do it, then it is your fault that it didn't get done. If you tell me to do it, then it is your fault if it doesn't go right.
Have you ever heard these words or experienced these attitudes? Covert narcissists are SO good at dodging responsibility.
I used to wonder why he wouldn’t even choose the restaurant for our dinner. Many years later, I discovered that he wouldn’t choose so that nothing could ever be his fault. Why would he not make the plans for our vacation? But yet he would be so mad at me for the plans I made. He would not make the plans so that nothing would ever be his fault. And yet he would be mad at me because everything was my fault.
He didn’t help do the chores around the house because he didn’t want to do it wrong and make me mad. So he just did nothing! In his mind, then I could not be mad at him because he didn’t do anything wrong.
Blame shifting is a common weapon for a covert narcissist. If you are listening to this today - stop taking the blame for their faults. Stop taking responsibility for their stuff. You are not doing them or yourself any favors. They have their life to live. They have their own to answer for. Don’t let them lay this on your shoulders anymore!!
Are compassion and empathy the same?
Guest episode with Brandon Chadwick from Narcissist Apocalypse
3 Effects of Covert Narcissistic Parenting
Covert Narcissistic Parents are Bullies
Stopping the Self-Doubt to Become Narcissist Resilient
Victims Often Join the Abuse Themselves ( Special Throwback Episode)
The Terrifying Narcissistic Traits in Our Children
Strengthening Your Narcissist Immune System
The Narcissism Spectrum (Special Throwback Episode)
Covert Narcissism Q&A with Eleanor Marks
Story of Hope: Taking Pride in the Little Things Once Again
Our Kids Need Us
Breaking the Internal Chains of Abuse (Special Throwback Episode)
5 Effects of Covert Narcissistic Parenting on Our Kids
Stories of Hope: Take a Sabbatical
Covert Narcissism and the Parent Label
I Married a Salesman
Can I Have a Healthy Relationship After Covert Narcissism?
Story of Hope: Learning to Protect Yourself Part Two
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